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Feb. 2nd, 2015 10:01 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I've been thinking a lot about how I'm going to help Facilier.
Part of why he is the way he is, is because he's been marginalized. And while I can't say I've had as much direct experience as he's had with that kind of situation, my mother certainly has. He's made choices that grant him power over others because he's felt powerless himself.
I don't think menial labor is going to be a productive part of any rehabilitation I offer him, but I do want him to take on some form of responsibility in which he has to care for someone or something's well being even in some small degree.
I don't think he understands that loyalty and friendship and love of any kind can make a person inclined to act without expectation. That you can do things for other people without expecting to get something in return. I'm pretty sure these are the core problems, but I'm not sure how to go about addressing them.
Any advice, especially from wardens with a lot of experience, would be super helpful.
Part of why he is the way he is, is because he's been marginalized. And while I can't say I've had as much direct experience as he's had with that kind of situation, my mother certainly has. He's made choices that grant him power over others because he's felt powerless himself.
I don't think menial labor is going to be a productive part of any rehabilitation I offer him, but I do want him to take on some form of responsibility in which he has to care for someone or something's well being even in some small degree.
I don't think he understands that loyalty and friendship and love of any kind can make a person inclined to act without expectation. That you can do things for other people without expecting to get something in return. I'm pretty sure these are the core problems, but I'm not sure how to go about addressing them.
Any advice, especially from wardens with a lot of experience, would be super helpful.
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:14 pm (UTC)How does he feel about dogs? Or...any animals, I guess.
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:26 pm (UTC)You think I should give him a pet?
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:29 pm (UTC)Well I was just thinking about how therapeutic animals can be. And I mean, dogs are super loyal and love people unconditionally.
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:33 pm (UTC)I see what you're getting at. I'm just worried that instead of bonding, he'd resent the dog.
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:38 pm (UTC)What if the dog isn't his?
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:48 pm (UTC)It's a gamble. I want to start him with choosing between Medical and the kitchen. The dog could be added in a bit later. It's not a bad idea, just maybe not one he's ready for yet.
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Date: 2015-02-02 09:50 pm (UTC)[He nods though, at the mention of the other choices.]
Those sound good. Dean works in the kitchen. [She probably already knows this.]
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Date: 2015-02-02 10:02 pm (UTC)I think the dog might be part of the plan, just not yet.
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Date: 2015-02-02 10:49 pm (UTC)[He's never experienced that kind of prejudice, but he's smart enough to understand that it exists, and he understands why she's suggesting those options.]
Maybe the library could be another option? [He doesn't know, really. He's just tossing out ideas.]